An Apology to My Trump Voting Friends

  It's been three days since the election that left half the population in shock. I confess, I have been among the wounded, devastated, days in bed, nights on social media while cursing and crying intermittently.  Never in my lifetime did I ever think that a man who began his campaign by insulting Mexicans and immigrants going on to threaten women and muslims and undocumented immigrants, could make his way to the majesty of the White House and all that that represents. We are a democracy. We stand for freedom. Freedom of choice, the pursuit of happiness, the concept of loving thy neighbor as we love ourselves. Somehow those American values died in the early morning hours of November 9th 2016. At least that is how it feels to those of us expecting the opposite outcome. I respect my Trump loving friends' desire for change. I respect your need to take your America back. I understand that you hated Barack Obama, calling him a monkey, a Kenyan extremist, a communist, a socialist, a know nothing community organizer who faked his birth certificate and never really went to Harvard. I get your need to denigrate a black man and his wife because they don't fit your idea of what black in America means. I don't get how you think a man like Donald Trump is going to fix the America we are. I also apologize if my comments have offended you. I Apologize if you see demonstrators protesting Trump and feel  they have to be getting paid. I understand your need to be right about every notion that you have that the only right America is a white America where the confederate flag stands tall and affirmative action dies a permanent death. I understand that you feel your jobs, your children's education have been given away to the other than's, the people who only want free stuff. I understand that you feel that you are doing everything right and still sinking in a black hole of loss and disparity and debt. I understand how much you hated Hillary, you wanted to lock her up, you thought the Clinton foundation was a slush fund and that she would be prosecuted by the FBI for four years and you didn't want to deal with any of that. I understand what your needs wants and desires are because I hear them on right wing talk radio, Fox television, and I read them on The Drudge Report and Red State and the other right leaning websites out there. I get who you are. My plea to you is to understand that who you are is who "we" who don't believe the same things are. We are human, we are Americans, we may not look like you, speak like you, dress like you or move in the same circles as you do but we are you. We are a family of woman and man. We have to see each other, feel each other, understand each other or we are doomed. We feel your pain but in my apology I offer a plea. Know that so many of us fear what comes next because we have never been so divided in modern times. If we are not the United States, we fall apart as the divided States.  Right now we are on a collision course with destiny that will define us for generations to come.